Without doubt one of the hardest things associated with separation & divorce is the shock of finding oneself alone for long periods of time. Many of us typically experience an abrupt change from constant connection with our partners and children to living on our own. My own journey was in the beginning I know catastrophic. It learnt that acute separation or isolation anxiety is very real. It was so bad I cried at night, in the darkest moments, and struggled to function during my days. I made trips to see my GP through desperation and unfortunately, I could not hide my trauma from my immediate

Many of us have been attending University graduation ceremonies this Summer. We might have met, as I did, our ex partners for the first time in many years as a result. This can be a challenging at worst or at best just makes us slightly nervous. In my own case I knew I was up to the task as of course my number one priority was and is to support my Daughter. Apart from being overjoyed for her I tried to imagine though how I might feel ho before we met and to my surprise I didn’t know. Would I feel reflective, more happy or sad than normal, would I be anxious?

Might some “feeling” return? By

I find myself at my 2 year anniversary (almost to the day) of when my Wife moved out after announcing to me that she: “didn’t love me anymore”; “his car is far better than yours”; “we have 4 hour sex sessions in the hotel” amongst other things... I recall fondly the support this website gave me in understanding my new found situation, in preparing me for what was about to come and in giving guidance of how to carry on in the present. It was a real help.

The subsequent 2 years after her brutal and totally unexpected announcements has seen me behave in a fairly typical (I presume) way.