Today's feeling = Being positive

I realised yesterday that as a husband, I failed my wife.

Even in the midst of all the anger, despair and just plain emptiness of feeling at the moment I have looked back on the past few months leading up to her telling me it's over and realised that it is partly my fault.

I took her for granted. I saw her changing, improving her life, getting fit (and, sod's law working overtime here, she does now look stunningly attractive!!!), learning Spanish and integrating with the community and I just sat there and watched TV / played with our daughter.

She's left me

1. Think of jobs he did - the ones you thought must be difficult - and learn to do them yourselves. Even if it takes you ages, doing something new is an achievement. Congratulate yourself.

2. If he comes round and finds fault, smile serenely and ignore him. It's not his business any more.

3. Watch a TV programme he disliked or despised. Note what's good about it - enjoy it if you can.

4. Retune the radio to a new station. See if you like it.

5. But something you never bought because he didn't like it. This one's for you.

6. Cook your favourite meal, especially if he didn't like it that