Money worries have been the theme of the week along with my future security which will be the focus of the consent order. I am interpreting this new focus as being progress, my head being clear enough to start thinking about long term practical matters. The past 3 months, not even 3 months, have been expensive. The retainer for my lawyers, house valuations, paying off troublesome debts to clear the way for future mortgage applications have wreaked havoc on my small savings pot. I need to make peace with these outgoings: I won't need to pay them again - they're one-offs, expensive but

Yesterday I was sent a screenshot of my soon to be ex-husbands' Tinder profile. I talked about dignity the other week and how important it is to me. I live on a small island, only around 40,000 permanent residents, so your Tinder profile (and pretty much everything else you do) is seen and heard about by everyone. I was shocked, upset and a little confused. We split up because he was having an affair, so I don't know what's happened to the other woman. She's a crazy mad person so maybe he got bored already. Maybe he's desperate for attention. Maybe he's still looking for the happiness he

It's Friday, and after a roller-coaster week, I think I need to evaluate and acknowledge what I've learned so far. Earlier this week I posted my observations that my soon to be ex husband is evolving and I felt like I was stuck where he left me. I realise this isn't true. My changes will be deep and meaningful and his are shallow and without foundation. I embrace my future, whatever it may bring. Sending emotionally charged responses to my soon to be ex husband is damaging to my well-being. I will remember to say what I need to say, remain objective and keep the emotion out of the