To return to the subject of subjectivity (as per a previous post of mine) - I am still bothered by this. By the fact that all of us on here are (apparently) the victims of psychopaths and adulterers who are crazed with greed, bent on revenge etc, while we ourselves are sweet reason itself …. I just don't think it can always be that simple. Certainly not in my case. I know a lot of wikis talk about their own part in the breakdown of the marriage, very often along the lines of 'what was it about me that was attracted to or enabled this kind of partner or wanted this kind of

I know this is trivial but I just wanted ask for some advice. In my process of trying to move forward I’ve found meet up to be a god send, I’m a member of a few social groups and walking groups , one of which I’ve been on around 20 walks since March, fitting them in as and when they were available and I didn’t have the kids, I’d love to do more walks but the kids come first, I had been thinking that once I’d got settled in my house in the new year, maybe we should start sharing the weekends alternate, it tends to be that I have them nearly every Friday and Saturday night then they go back

Well, I'm sitting here listening to all the voices of people who are wandering up and down the street outside my window. I feel so sad that I am going to give up on City life. I am utterly pissed off that Victim Support, Social Services, Family Intervention- even the police- take the view that I should flee the area when I have reported the endless abuse that has gone on. Without hard proof, they take a completely even-handed position and assume that my stbxs allegations are just as true as mine. Oh well, the Summer wasted dealing with all their input. At least they say they will keep