I'm 18 months down the line, still living in the FMH with my daughters (now 21 and 19), embroiled in a settlement war and trying to keep going. My separation anxiety and depression of last year has been replaced with a greater fear of how to manage and how to fend off the wolf from the door. Grief seems almost an indulgence these days. I suppose I am sailing in a sinking ship....it's just a question of time when the breaking point will arrive. The breaking point could be financial ruin, accepting his low offer, becoming so fat that I won't be able to move, a nervous breakdown or ...and

I recently closed the door on the marital home of almost 20 years and I can honestly say I did not think too much about it. I was happy to be moving on. I divorced in Dec 2010 and unfortunately for me my journey was made very challenging by an ex wife who had an affair with one of my best friends and a school boyfriend that she met on friends reunited. It took my almost 18 months to discover the latter and a little longer to really know about the former! The divorce was my process and I chose to go in hard but fairly and I bought the former family home through refinancing and kept stability

I read a post a moment ago on here which struck a chord with me (elizadoolittle-thank you).. I have developed a marvellous coping stategy which involves NOT thinking about IT until I am in a place I am ready to. This isn't as foolish as it first sounds.. I checked my email inbox today and it's hit 1000 unread emails. 1000!! if I actually troll down the list I can guarantee that almost all of that 1000 are total BS! If I never open them.. never read their vacuous contents. I will be none the wiser but no worse off either. I carry this technique over to mail. Physical..through the door mail.