Well below is a copy of an earlier post on the forum. Well what can I say other than I am extremely distraught that I'm here. Its only been 10 days since things started to fall to pieces but outside interference has thrown C4 on the tiny fire and its just got worse. I haven't seen my kids for 10days and spoke to them once quickly and that was that. I've been refused contact of any kind and can't speak to my wife as the police have asked me to stop texting her so I have complied as best i can. Her parents won't even talk amicably with mine and as she has taken the last of my money and

I know this sounds like I'm experimenting with FAD diets or something but I have been reading through the TAM site that LW recommended to me (hope it's not a dirty word on WV?). It has some great reads on it. I took some advice from the site a few days ago, to do with boundaries and behaviour during the split. So...on Tuesday night I decided to do the "180" they speak of...even if I don't feel like it inside. I waited for her to come home (late, from London). Then, I said the following in a very confident and calm manner: "Listen. I've made it clear to you how I feel about you. You know

(1) Some background: We have been married for 6 years and this July would have been our seventh anniversary. We met in Moscow (she's Russian) where I was working at the time, and our relationship was quite a whirlwind. Within a year we were returning to the UK and decided to marry. We moved in to a home, had our son (he's nearly four now) and began our life together. It was apparent from the start (if I'm brutally honest) that we were chalk and cheese in many respects. But nonetheless, we loved each other and we were willing to work on our differences and the aspects of our relationship