Just read Stemginger's post about feeling foolish for having tried for years to save her marriage. I know how she feels. So many people - everyone in fact - advised me that there was probably another involved when my husband left. I know perfectly well of course that it's usually the case. But I was convinced he was not seeing someone else. And maybe at first he wasn't. But that's one thing I feel foolish about. More than that though is that I believed all the lies about everything and trusted him. When he told me that the cost of his leaving was 'marginal', that the company was paying

he wants us to live apart my husband of only 2 years has decided that he wants us to live in separate houses he is 38 - i met him when he was 35 - he has always lived at home with his parents and has never had a job that paid well enough for him to leave - altho he had always worked it was a very fast romance - he proposed after 3 months and we married after one year - two years later he decides he really cannot live with someone - he is too set in his ways he says he still loves me and wants to stay married to me along with all the vows and promises marriage comes with - but just

not a bad morning. i got up, 22 min on the treadmill, she prepared for a test at school and surfed for tatting patterns she has been interested in on the net. i finished my workout and sat with her and talked about her tatting and that she was stressing about her test today. this is what she sees as recovery. i dare not mention anything of our crisis at hand when she is in a good mood. she will sigh, give her viewpoint of "letting time deal with it" and that would have been the end of our morning. assumptive? i dont think so, we have been married almost 24 yrs and i know how she