How desperate I must be! seperated 5 months ago but have regretted it ever since, we were married for 25 years and I miss him so much, it was my idea but I wanted him to beg me not to go and suddenly there we were - seperated!

Anyway spoke to him on phone and asked could we try again - he said no too much had happened and nothing would have changed. So in desperation wrote to him (been having counselling and althought I am supposed to write a letter I dont think the counsellor meant me to actually send it!) told him I had ben having counselling etc and basically begged him to reconsider.

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So, last week I had some control. Over the week end I realise that I still have feelings for my wife. Why can't I make a decision and stick to it? Probably because it is not like buying a car. There is so much investment over many years.

So we are probably both confused. My wife (who appeared genuinely shocked) because I played the big hand last week. And now I want to take it back.

Me because I thought I had some control and realise that we are both no further forward because both of our positions are unclear to the other and probably to ourselves.

Has anyone invented a multiple