I went into the evening determined to maintain a positive attitude. We have had so many bad times in the last ten months and so many ugly fights that I was determined not to go down that road. We went into the city and grabbed a nice dinner and a new upscale Vietnamese restaurant (really good BTW) and then went to the club to see the band. It was fun, we had a good time. It was kind of like a first date as I think we were both nervous and weren't sure of what we were doing. Although, with a first date I think I would not have been so tentative with anything close to physical. There was no

I knew it had to happen one day. Indeed I had been waiting for it to happen. The day I encountered the OW. It was in the local supermarket. She saw me, and I saw her. I didn't acknowledge her. In face I walked straight past her. There was once a time I would have walked up to her and slapped her face, but on this occasion I didn't. I just carried on walking to the checkout and that was the end of it. My how times have changed. I just feel sorry for her now. Her marriage is still rocky and her "relationship" with my husband just fell apart and crumbled. We are now trying to

So tomorrow night is the date with my wife. I arranged a nice Turkish restaurant and then a pub next door for a drink after. She asked what we'd be doing and I told her and she said "oh, the same old thing. I was hoping for something fun like racing go karts or going kayaking". ok, here is where I need some advice. My theory was let's see if we can talk and have fun rediscover each other and not fight. I guess she was thinking of a more fun activity. Should I change the plans based on her input? I could find a place to go dancing or race go karts or bowling or something touristy. Should I