Ippo Panteloudakis, Helplines Manager of Mens Advice Line wrote this informative article...... "
I think I had an email exchange with them many years ago. Much water under the bridge since then.
It is survivable, people/
I find myself at my 2 year anniversary (almost to the day) of when my Wife moved out after announcing to me that she: “didn’t love me anymore”; “his car is far better than yours”; “we have 4 hour sex sessions in the hotel” amongst other things... I recall fondly the support this website gave me in understanding my new found situation, in preparing me for what was about to come and in giving guidance of how to carry on in the present. It was a real help.
The subsequent 2 years after her brutal and totally unexpected announcements has seen me behave in a fairly typical (I presume) way.
Its not the first time I have reflected on the challenging time of Christmas when people are / have experienced loss. You might recall how my first yuletide was spent alone in a dark room curled up in ball. The years since then have been a gradual process of slowly but surely allowing the light to enter back in but in carefull steps and with nothing rushed. The simple fact is that frivolity has no place in a broken heart at least for a time. Just as we might hear people moaning about things at work or complaints about this and that, the thought of having to participate in a long family