Posted forum and blog so all friends receive the thank you. We wish for Karma but... Earlier I posted: If this is is karma take it away. This is a thank you and a tribute to all Wikis who have supported me since I joined this site. Too many names to remember, but just wanted to say a big thank you for the last 4 years. Death is not what we wish on someone who was part of our life for more than half of our years on this earth. More

I was chatting to my boss yesterday and she asked me how I was feeling. Three steps forward and two steps back was my reply and yesterday very much fitted that description. Where I live, you have to have a work permit to be a resident. It's a complex and stressful process but yesterday I found out that my latest permit has been granted. This means I can move forward with getting the house transferred over into my sole ownership and complete the mortgage application and I can start the process of shipping all my things from the UK. It means I know here I am going to be for the next two

At the same time as all the grief, panic, stress, tears, snot, expense, worry and general distress, it's worth noting that good things also happen. Friends are wonderful things and no matter what role they adopt in relation to your new situation, they bring welcome comfort, distraction and often they bring wine. It's been six weeks since I busted my soon to be ex husband outside his floozies house, and since then I have cooked dinners for friends and entertained them with my rants and tears and my wonderful cooking, I've been cooked for and soothed with stories of other people's days,