Now that the menu has reappeared (thanks wikiteckie's) I can tell you about the weekend.
The children are with their maternal grandparents for 2 weeks as we are both working. As I may not see them until the end of the month I thought it would be good to see them both this weekend.
So a long trip (200 miles each way) and time with in-laws, 2 sisters in law and their husbands. Felt like it might be stepping into the lions cage but they were great, no blame on me, encouragement to sort things out as soon as possible and reading between the lines I think a great deal of frustration with