So we're a couple of weeks in and I'm the dreaded respondent.

Alright perhaps I haven't been the best husband in the world but how quickly the early stage develops into some pretty petty stuff.

I'm told no sleeping together (like that was happening anyway), no eating together -OK. Do your own ironing - hey I can do that ( where's the manual).

Oh and buy your own food - By the way we're out of coffee. OK I'll go to Spar and get some? - no buy your own food!

Next morning guess what - there's coffee, she's drinking it but - it's hidden and I can't touch it cos the solicitor said so. Where does it

Oh dear, where to begin. Recap - Co-own hotel with STBX. Also work a day job Mon - Fri, to ease cahsflow in hotel. She decides that if I won't move out of the hotel, she will. So has gone and rented a house. Announces to me that she is going, and taking kids. Kids B15, G12, B8. I point out to her that it is not ncessarily up to her to decide where the kids may or may not want to live. The elder 2 will have their views taken into account by a court, and they may NOT want to leave home and go to rental. STBX has seen a sol recently, and realises that actually, although she couldn't

What do I do ? Sol dropped me today, so all paperwork is done, just need to collect "bundle" for hearing. Could not afford £1000 extra requested today for attendance at court.

Problem - What do I do now that I am self repping?

History - ex no show at court, no reply to sols letters, no disclosure Form E - yet may show up thursday. Why? Because he has just been informed by my sol that he owns a part of my property. It is worthless to anyone else - but he was hoping to financially ruin me before now.

With no disclosure I believe he can not add anything in court, yet could query my info???!!!

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