Today has been quite busy both with work and arranging things for split.

8am met estate agent and while it was good to hear the house is worth a little more than I thought it only means a larger sum to find if I try to buy out stbx. However due to limited equity and motgage penalty fees make a sale unlikely or unadvised. Renting it out could be an option?

Saw solicitor at lunchtime who recommends a clean break and a negoitated settlement. That could be tricky but have next mediation meeting next wednesday so we will see. Also advised to acknowledge unreasonable behaviour petition but not

After nearly 17 yrs of marraige my husband announced on the Saturday before Christmas that he did not love me anymore. This was a bolt out of the blue. We agreed to keep together until after Christmas for our two daughters sake aged 14 and 11. What really happened was he went off the rails going out drinking and not coming home sneaking back and lying to the kids. We told them the news the day after boxing day they were devastated.

After I reorganised the finances (paying off some debts with savings) he moved out into a rented flat agreeing to pay maintenance to cover outstanding debts and

I have been a bit pro active today going to estate agents,organising one to come to value the house,signed documents,delivered paperwork to solicitors and finding out what was the price of a 2 bed house in my area....I have had no dealings with my wife,since I had suggested joint custody for my daughter...It does not seem to be in my wifes plans.But it is now in mine and for my daughters sake.It can only be better for her as she will have a more balanced view of life.My wife is very strong willed. And normally gets her way.

No rash today, I must be doing something right.

Alan