I car crashed onto this website over five years ago looking for answers. I got some but not enough (that’s the first lesson) but have made some very special friends. You will come out of this – you’ll be different and things will change (lesson #2). So its time for me to sign off from this site – new names starting out on this clusterf8ck of an experience, reading the heart breaking blogs and giving sage wisdom is the crutch I needed but now its time to take the training wheels off. Divorce is transitional – its not a life style. So Patricks Top Bits of Advice you won’t heed but

..and labelled with.. I spent last night drinking I doubt I'm sober now.. 13 years ago and I was knee deep in Northern Soul and love..my anniversary..and you swapped your friends for this new way of life and then you became ex-husband and wife... Irony..I wrote a blog hate and I'm trying so hard to find something to hang onto something good..I'm watching a documentary about Squeeze.. I rang the kids and they spent today in Brighton..with him and her..... I won't lie, its better than it was, last year I just came back from Afghan, two years ago wanting to die, three years ago self

Another four letter word right at the other end of the scale. I bet you never ever thought you’d hate the person you loved, the father or mother of your children, you soul-mate the other part of you. Maybe you’re still part of this society that despite being jettisoned into the void still clings onto the mantra that you above that four letter word “I’ll remain honourable I’ll keep my integrity I won’t hate’. Good luck with that buddy, your new here aren’t you? When I came here 3 or 4 years ago I held onto faith, hope and optimism my trinity of words that actually are as useful as a water