Hot on the heals of the previous post, what's the deal after the actual split? I'll be living on my own (sniff) and have time to kill. So here's The Plan:

1) I need to vastly improve my Spanish.

As I live in Spain and will not be able to depend on X2B and her significantly better but still faltering Spanish to handle all the communications for me, I've got to pull my finger out and get on with it. So that means custody of the tapes, CD,s books etc. that have sat on the bookshelf, unloved, for months and months.

2) Daddy and daughter time

I will have to work out what to do with the small

OK, so this is a good one.

Last night we both took our daughter to karate. I wasn't going to go, I had decided to do less things as a threesome, family type unit in the lead up to D day on October 27th, but daughter specifically asked that I go.

We're there, watching the bullies-in-training go through the motions, me at one end of the room, X2B at the other. After a while we meet up and I notice she is looking sad. So, before I can stop myself, I ask her if she's OK.

Her response?

You'll like this.

"For the first time today I'm having doubts."

!!!!

???

!!!!

Doubts about what I ask.

Doubts about us

This is the text of an email I was going to write to X2B after a telephone conversation a few minutes ago but I think it's better that I don't. I think she'll think I'm having a go. And I'm not. Just want her to understand how things she says effect me. I don't think there is anything malicious in her words or actions, I just think that she doesn't even think of the possible negative connotations of her actions.

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"This is silly but I thought I'd let you know anyway. Not because I'm having a go, but just because I want you to know how I'm thinking. Not sure why, just wanted to