Well, we’ve told out daughter. It went ok although both X2B and I are a little concerned that it has not sunk in yet. She's only 9 so I guess it's understandable.

The text (roughly) of what we told her is as follows, it's written from X2B's perspective as she was the one doing the talking (daughter is 'M', names changed to protect the innocent!!!):

M, come and sit her with us because we have something important to tell you.

We will always be your mummy and daddy and you know thatwe love you very much.

There are different types of love, one is friend love like the sort

We're telling our daughter today (as it is 3 minutes past midnight here in Spain).

Neither X2B nor I are nervous at this stage, that'll change I'm sure.

I must say, one of the things that has helped me (us) prepare the most is the advice, experiences and general comments from the wonderful people on this site. Thank you all if you've ever commented on my blog or a post on the fora. You have all helped me become stable and in control again from the jibbering wreck I was in the early days.

And the 'early days' were less than a month ago so you work pretty damn fast!!!

So, again, thank you,

Well, X2B and I have discussed it and have come up with a monologue that she will tell our daughter. She's going to lead it as I believe I will be too emotional.

We've got a few themes throughout the talk. The usual stuff, "it's not you fault", "such things just happen sometimes", "mummy and daddy are still really good friends".

After we have told our daughter, and if X2B is happy with the idea, I'll post up what we said and how it was received. It may be of use to others in a similar situation.

Also, after it is all out in the open, I can reveal my true identity.....

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