Hi Everyone.....

A year ago today my husband walked out of my life without a word..... 20th July 2007... a day I shall never forget.....

Shortly afterwards I found this site.... it was a godsend, I can tell you!!!!

The support and advice I got from members was amazing..... something I shall ALWAYS be grateful for..... so, for those of you who are still around - thankyou!!!! - I'm not sure how I would have coped without your wise and kind words...

One year on today........

I am now emotionally much improved, I laugh again...I don't cry anymore, and life is pretty much okay....  By no means the

I find myself reading so many posts about who contributed what to this and that.....

I find this personal...... as, six or seven months ago, after my stbx left me (without a word).... he decided to call me to tell me he wanted to sell our home of 20+ years, and he wanted to be divorced (for the 3rd time)....

We, as most people do, had some to-ing and fro-ing about financials..... and he said that I should have 50% of the equity in the house - nothing else........ as I hadn't made a mortgage payment......

Well - excuse me - I have worked all of our married life........ apart from when our

It's been a busy week in the SL Household...... I was busy having valuations done on the house, as we have to agree a valuation by 4pm tomorrow, otherwise the court will appoint a valuer... which we will have to accept and pay for.....

I had a call from my sol early in the week.... she'd had a call from his sol, he wants a valuation done by a particular agent, and would I agree for that to be done?........I said "yes - no problem".....she said she'd let his sol know, and they could have it organised (around my work schedule)..... anyway, no contact from him, or this particular agent....I