This time last year was the worst week of my life. 

I discovered my husbands affair, 2 days later my mum died (after a year of battling cancer), 2 days after that was my 9th wedding anniversary.    And it's all gone down hill since.  I've turned into someone I don't recognise anymore. 

Just over a year ago I was a happy, confident, secure wife, mother and daughter.  The worst thing coming my way was the death of my mum.  Now, well I can't remember the last time I was happy, I've lost my confidence and I'm muddling though motherhood, missing marriage and missing my mum.

Those of you that know

Good evening wiki family,

I'm feeling unsettled today.  A slight step back from my recent positive attitude. 

The court case concluded, I retain my freedom, but lose my licence.  Ok it has made life really hard, but I'll survive.  My husband has been supportive and cooperative. He said he would help as much as he could and has been almost friendly.   My sister warned me not to read too much into it, and not to rely on him, but you know what it's like.  When you still love them, when you can't believe they have become this selfish, uncaring person, when you pray they will return to being the

Dear Wiki Family

I've changed my user name.  I wasn't going to but decided that as the divorce process starts I will probably need to share things with you guys that I wouldn't want husband or ugli mistress knowing.

I seriously lack imagination, hence the original username - but ugli inspired me.  Ha Ha.

So from now on I'm known as BumpHercar.   Might as well start laughing at her expense.

Speak soon

BumpHercar -