Well today the consent order was sent back to the solicitor, things are really moving on. Stbx will get his copy to sign soon I hope and send it back promptly - it says exactly what we agreed when he dropped the bombshell 6 months - ago everything to be split 50/50. We've had no contact since he moved out in January but there's no reason think he will have changed his opinion but I won't give him any credit for making the financial side easy until it's signed off by the court and I'm the proud owner of my own house. I think reading some of the problems people have on Wiki makes me wary but

It's ages since I wrote last I've been busy with life. The no contact has been great for helping me adjust to the extent that I spent a couple of nights in the former marital bedroom last week and slept well with no feeling of ghosts. The letter saying my Decree Nisi had been issued gave me a couple of low days but I had to laugh at the comment that I might be better off as his widow than as his ex wife so to consider whether to apply for the absolute immediately it is available (don't tempt me I thought). Seriously I am much better disposed towards stbx having had no contact but now the

I made it to the Manchester meet but ran away mid afternoon, no reflection on the lovely people I met there just that crowds and shopping and pubs aren't my thing (ok my husband is divorcing me for being boring maybe he has a point). I spent Sunday walking with friends in the snowy hills and was much happier so lesson learned I shall stick with what I enjoy rather than try and reinvent myself. Stbx is completely gone from the fmh now and grown up children have visited his new abode, one has met his new lady the other is reluctant, both are now feeling slightly sorry for him, while I was in