I am nearly 2 years into separation and things have changed significantly. I have had some very low periods over the last year - but also some highs. Before we separated I began a part time MSc course - I intend to go back to work full time rather than my current part-time hours once my youngest is older and we are more settled. STBX behavior took a turn for the worse last year, which meant my degree took me a while longer. But I have now passed and with a merit :) So the stress in my life has increased and also decreased... 2 of my kids will not get up for school - I was

My STBXH asked for a divorce at the beginning of May. He is living abroad (not unusual in the oil business), so I think it has not been such a stressful situation as many of you have found yourselves in - he is already living somewhere else, and can afford to pay the mortgage, so in the short term life is pretty much as normal - except I now know an awful lot more about Scottish and English divorce law than I did a few months ago! My kids are older and there is no debate about where they will live, they have their own phones and chat regularly to STBX on the phone. I have launched into