Crash and burn... I know many of you will say (and have said) that seeking to go meeting people of the opposite sex within the first year is too soon.. but I was so lonely and unsure of my attractiveness having been rejected for so long I felt compelled to do it. You know what? I am very popular amongst the daters out there!! Me?!! Well why not I might add.. but the stbx basically reduced me to an occasional hug and sex about twice a year towards the end..so I was both emotionally raw and very horny (or so i thought). Having met quite a few people and gone through the full gamut of drinks,

My wife...wish I could get used to saying my stbx wife.. was afraid of intimacy. She has a dog..one she's had for years, even before we met. This dog (I used to joke) meant more to her than I did. She took the dog to bed.. (in to the bed) every night, and would cuddle the dog through the night. The dog goes with her everywhere.. even at times when it might be inappropriate (such as busy family homes on Xmas day).. She gave the dog all and I always felt second. It's actually very funny. Me or the dog.. dog wins. She used to say when I asked her if she loved me "I love you when your nice". I

What hurts almost as much as anything is when she tells me that the people I knew well from her family are recommending terrible action of her part (she should default on mortgage etc). people I liked and respected, people who I was eating Xmas dinner with 7 months ago. No wonder I always feel insecure. My parents divorced when I was 15.. ever since, every meaningful relationship has bombed eventually. Am I a walking relationship disaster? My stbx says it was because of the things I said to her-the way i talked to people that she lost respect for me. Of course you guys can never know the