Divorce can leave you struggling to find your mojo, your sense of worth, your confidence, your sex appeal.
You can be left thinking that things will never be the same, and you’re right, they won’t. But, things can and will change and they can change for the better. Sometimes it feels like you’re swimming through treacle and will never surface but you will. It’s up to you whether you come up spluttering or shouting and punching the air.
If you’re feeling down start doing some conscious positive thinking exercises. Don’t just dismiss it as ‘claptrap’ - give it a try, what have you got to lose?
Here are my top 6 ideas for helping you to find your ‘mojo’:
1. Catch yourself thinking sad or negative thoughts and replace them with positive thoughts. It doesn’t have to be huge things; simple things like looking forward to seeing a friend, an exercise class, or something planned for the weekend will bring you out of your negative thought pattern.
2. Take up a new hobby or interest. It doesn’t have to cost the earth. Most local authorities run exercise classes and evening courses. Why not learn a skill or a new discipline in exercise? Alternatively you could join the WI (women only) or volunteer in your local community.
3. Learn to meditate. It really does help to relax you and focus your mind on what is important. Just 10 minutes a day can reduce your stress levels. You don’t have to be religious to be spiritual. Meditation allows your subconscious to find solutions to your problems.
4. Count your blessings. Each day before you go to sleep say thank you for all the good things in your life, however small. Learn to appreciate simple things like a walk in the countryside, the love of a pet, the wonder of growing flowers and vegetables, a bird singing or a beautiful sunset.
5. Learn to love yourself. Appreciate your good qualities, believe it when people pay you compliments, relax and enjoy your own company, make the most of your life.
6. Buy a self-help book and do the suggested exercises. Really work through it, don’t just put it on the shelf and forget about it. Alternatively read some inspirational books about people who have survived the challenges life has thrown at them.