Just to wish everyone everywhere- on both sides of the arguments- a merry Christmas and a happy and productive new year. I am finally divorced!!!! Decree absoluted a couple of days ago. Now the long slog to get the financial settlement enacted despite the ex's endless stalling and time (and money) wasting…and then, perhaps, with fingers crossed and lucky penny to hand, I shall see my daughters again. Meanwhile I carry on

In the last month or two I have started to feel like I've woken up from a coma. I don't mean the effects of stress on memory and concentration, which hasn't totally recovered yet, even though I am much more at peace with what happened. No, the comatose state started when I decided that it would be enough to go along for the ride as a companion to a confident, smart and ambitious man, because I had no particular burning drive or direction. Me, who had always wanted an interesting career, to travel all around the world. Even when I had red flags before our wedding I thought it would be

Was very interested to see this in the news this week. Its an emotive subject of course and one that can often inflame extreme views that either support or question its validity in their own world: What might our own cases look like if they were "reopened"! I confess I would sometimes see similar headlines in the past and shudder at the thought of "hell hath no fury" and woman who receive multi millions as a result from their original settlements. Reading more about one woman affected by this is this weeks news its clear her ex husband was a complete crook and outside of his marriage