Just to wish everyone everywhere- on both sides of the arguments- a merry Christmas and a happy and productive new year. I am finally divorced!!!! Decree absoluted a couple of days ago. Now the long slog to get the financial settlement enacted despite the ex's endless stalling and time (and money) wasting…and then, perhaps, with fingers crossed and lucky penny to hand, I shall see my daughters again. Meanwhile I carry on

Have now received my Decree Absolute, so I am a free woman ! Several people have asked if I am having a party, but it seems a strange thing to have a party for, maybe a wake ! We still have the Police pension sharing order to be activated, but that is being processed. In a way I still feel sad that I didn't manage to make my marriage work, even though I am so much better off without my ex , I am in my own house , can do what I like and I have a lovely man in my life. The ex is about the same in terms of his cancer he has another new girlfriend and has bought a motor bike, I think he

Have had a bad day ! Following on from my last post ex then told me he had been given a prognosis of 6 to 9 months, I went over to see him as he sounded upset and spent an hour with him. I then told my solicitor about this and she said as we haven't got the Absolute yet it might be in my favour to look at the widows pension or even for him to give me a bigger portion of his pension, but not enable the consent order for a bit. It seemed like a good idea as this would mean there would be more money in the future to support our sons, so put this to ex who said he would talk to his sols and get