Have had a bad day ! Following on from my last post ex then told me he had been given a prognosis of 6 to 9 months, I went over to see him as he sounded upset and spent an hour with him. I then told my solicitor about this and she said as we haven't got the Absolute yet it might be in my favour to look at the widows pension or even for him to give me a bigger portion of his pension, but not enable the consent order for a bit. It seemed like a good idea as this would mean there would be more money in the future to support our sons, so put this to ex who said he would talk to his sols and get

Hi all, little update from me. So things have been calm enough recently, we have settled in to this strange routine of living together but living apart. It suits me at the minute. I've been trying my hardest to get along with her as much as possible although still not speaking much. A few weeks back she sent me some pictures of the kids while she was out at the park with them, something I put a stop to a while ago as I didn't think it was of any use to me to see my girls out with her without me. I said thank you and got a reply of 'well maybe you could send me some when you do stuff'. Fine

I have said before that my ex has not been looking well, this week he has been diagnosed with a stomach tumour, still having some more tests but looks like it's malignant . I am not sure how I feel about the news, part of me thinks it's no longer my problem, but after 40 years of knowing him, I feel sad at this news, also I am worried how my sons will feel about it, they are 26 and 20 so grown up, but it's not news you want to hear at any age. I am hoping for my exs sake that it will be treatable and he gets better, I have never wished him any harm, and now I am in my own place and we have