Enlightenment has dawned on me.
I now realise what has been happening throughout the past 20 years of my 21 year marriage. I am sure we all try desparately to discover and understand how we manage to find ourselves in this pit of despair and pain.
I was never one to appreciate what I call psychobabble but the obvious truth is undeniable. We have been in, what is termed, 'A Controlling Abusive Victim Co-Dependant' relationship and the both of us have been completly unaware of it. When I started reading I could feel the load rising of my shoulders and I truly, truly hope that my wife has the same