https://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_rethinking_infidelity_a_talk_for_anyone_who_has_ever_loved?language=en I found this v good and helpful. Pls listen to all of it if you like. Best, Rock.

Where will I be in a year's time? Tucked up warm and sexy with my new girlfriend in a nice flat near some nice part of the city? Or next to an airfield outside the city in a bizarre home full of my great grandfather's antiques hosting soirees by the piano and guitar with a couple of Lotus in the garage- and tucked up warm and sexy with my new girlfriend? I could do with a hug tonight. She touches me so sensually!!! :) With a lake nearby for my Summer swims and her all year swims. The dog in her basket. My daughter and stepdaughter visiting… with their lovely boyfriends. Also

On Wednesday 23rd Septemebr I finally left the marriage we had shared for 37 years and the home we had shared for 8. I was an emotional mess and tears were not far away. By arrangement he had got out of the way and the 2 men moving me did so as efficiently as they could within an few hours. It was so hard to do. By the time I reached my new home about 10 minutes away, the tears were forgotten. I have no shower, there are bare floorboards in the hall, the garden is a wasteland and I have a few bits of mismatched furniture and limited funds, but it welcomed me with its tiny 60s heart and I