Compelling viewing once more from Auntie Beeb (the BBC)  is the TV programme "Call The Mediator. However hard we thought our own process was / is at the time its amazing to see how the lives of others can seem even more complicated and difficult. Also, how very hard it is to communicate with the ex. Both episodes so far have shown everything from a couple who are not married, but seperating, continually arguing over co parenting yet somehow ocassionally still sleep together, to a woman who lived with a much older man many years go, left him to marry someone else in the office, with whom she

As only the Beeb can, Dr Foster on a Wed night confirms its status as the premier drama production force on the telly. It is gripping stuff especially for those who are experiencing a breakup involving betrayal. It must be raw and difficult to watch for many who are currently in the middle on the whirlwind that isolates them from everyone and everything in the world. I know it can be hard for me too still. On a personal level the whole thing is quite accurate: there is doubt, following by searching for evidence of the affair, followed by discovery of the truth, murderous thoughts, anxiety,

so where to begin? a middle aged guy a chronic (as in i've been trying to deal with this all my adult life) depressive suffering from ocd (which was apparently the grain of sand that led to the depression ... as i've been told by the medical profession some 20 years after starting to try to get a handle on this issue :/) married for 17 years (not counting the decree nisi) no kids in the relationship became dependent upon my wife over 10 years ago for the medical reasons noted - at her instigation ... (is that a tripwire??) suffered a major personal and marital breakdown in 2010 had