At the risk of sounding like a complete idiot: I was talking to a friend the other day. Smart cookie, she is. But not academic. Never had a high powered job. Married to a man who ‘knows his own mind’, ‘calls a spade a spade’ etc. Though he is not my type, they have just celebrated 25 years together and she certainly seems happy. Anyway, we were chatting a while back, and the subject of the referendum came up. My friend said something which at the time I ignored. Along the lines of ‘Well, if (husband) were here he could explain it all very well’. Now obviously there is nothing

At the risk of sounding flippant, I honestly right now miss my cleaning lady more than my x. Seriously. And not only because I can't believe how dusty things get and how quickly, and wonder how she managed to keep a great big house full of children clean when I am struggling to clean up after myself with this one. The woman who came and cleaned house for me worked for me for over 20 years (longer than my marriage), and saw me through childbirth and separation and three house moves. She had the key to my home and was often there all alone. She never stole so much as a penny from me.

18 months post divorce...so where am I at? The past year and a half have been let's say..'interesting'... in turns terrifying, involving, hopeful and shocking. I eventually moved house in Sept 2015 into a nice 3 b3d flat not too far from where I lived before. Neat place...spent a few months painting and sorting out furniture. I was helped by a very nice woman I met on a casual date (there were lots and lots of dates. Why not?? I enjoyed being in 'the game' again but this one person stood out and we immediately began seeing each other to the exclusion of anyone else. I digress. I'd just got