I have written and deleted so many intros to this I can't even count...I have never written a blog, but I figured that if I can write something down and maybe find some answers, then what the hell!!

i have been thinking alot today about a couple I know that are on the verge of splitting up.   I don't know them very well, more a friend of a friend and a Facebook friend.  However I could tell something wasn't right.  The wife used to post lots of lovely and funny stories and photos of her lovely and much yearned for young family, the gorgeous house in the countryside  they had refurbished and extended, and the walks close to their home in idyllic surroundings with dogs and childeren in tow.  Plus the horse she loves to ride.  Then the images changed to endless selfies, different poses in

After so many years of not knowing where your future can be found, there will come a day when it almost arrives unnoticed. This is because your pain has thankfully shrunk inside you to a small background hum. It is still there of course but having learnt to live with it for so long it has become a part of you that you can now control.