This is going to be a long one....

Yesterday I had my First Hearing. The previous week I had decided to self-rep as I believed that my solicitor had not got me anywhere. So last week Ravenclaw re-wrote the statement of issues as we believed the ones that had been prepared by the sol did not allow the Judge to fully understand the issues at hand. I had these filed at the court and sent my stbx sol a copy.

Up to this point my stbx had still not submitted her Form E .

So I turned up to the court with no idea of the other sides financial needs, nor what their statements of issues were. I sat down

After nearly 17 yrs of marraige my husband announced on the Saturday before Christmas that he did not love me anymore. This was a bolt out of the blue. We agreed to keep together until after Christmas for our two daughters sake aged 14 and 11. What really happened was he went off the rails going out drinking and not coming home sneaking back and lying to the kids. We told them the news the day after boxing day they were devastated.

After I reorganised the finances (paying off some debts with savings) he moved out into a rented flat agreeing to pay maintenance to cover outstanding debts and

I have been a bit pro active today going to estate agents,organising one to come to value the house,signed documents,delivered paperwork to solicitors and finding out what was the price of a 2 bed house in my area....I have had no dealings with my wife,since I had suggested joint custody for my daughter...It does not seem to be in my wifes plans.But it is now in mine and for my daughters sake.It can only be better for her as she will have a more balanced view of life.My wife is very strong willed. And normally gets her way.

No rash today, I must be doing something right.

Alan