It's Friday, and after a roller-coaster week, I think I need to evaluate and acknowledge what I've learned so far. Earlier this week I posted my observations that my soon to be ex husband is evolving and I felt like I was stuck where he left me. I realise this isn't true. My changes will be deep and meaningful and his are shallow and without foundation. I embrace my future, whatever it may bring. Sending emotionally charged responses to my soon to be ex husband is damaging to my well-being. I will remember to say what I need to say, remain objective and keep the emotion out of the

I had an email conversation with my soon to be ex husband today. It had the usual back and forth. A little power struggle, a little snark from both sides. But it has left me feeling uneasy. I noticed changes in the language he was using, words and phrases he never used before that are the result of his being absorbed in his new relationship. And it left me wondering, how long will it be before I change? For the people who leave for new relationships, they are immediately transported to this new and wonderful life. They start over with barely a whisper of their conscience and can continue

so where to begin? a middle aged guy a chronic (as in i've been trying to deal with this all my adult life) depressive suffering from ocd (which was apparently the grain of sand that led to the depression ... as i've been told by the medical profession some 20 years after starting to try to get a handle on this issue :/) married for 17 years (not counting the decree nisi) no kids in the relationship became dependent upon my wife over 10 years ago for the medical reasons noted - at her instigation ... (is that a tripwire??) suffered a major personal and marital breakdown in 2010 had