Brief history of friendship...
(S) is a very good friend of mine and I was friends with him before my ex was. (S) has a lovely girlfriend , (P) and 2 gorgeous kids. Ex hubby (X) and I are Godparents to their youngest.
S went out for a drink with X last week, X asked S how I was, had S & P seen me, had they met my new boyfriend? Was I ok, did I still hate him, how would S rate the chances of me and X being friends again? Did S know where I was living, was I still in the same job, and was I really ok? Had I asked about X recently, did I know about X new girlfriend Y? Did S think that I would speak to X if he contacted me?
Chatting to Boyfriend about it last night, he understands how I feel as he feels the same about his ex wife.
I do not wish X any harm, but I do not really wish him....anything!! I don't want to be friends with him, I don't particularly wish to speak to him.
If this makes sense, I'm NOT ready. Yes, it would be nice if we happen to be at the same gathering that we could be around each other and not feel on edge or uncomfortable. But I'm not ready for that yet. My life is so much easier without him ‘in' it.
Am I seeing too much in this or is this normal/usual behaviour?