Now I am almost a year on since the decree nisi. What's been going on?
Well, in September, I called in social services because the ex-wife had beaten up our son during a row over tidying up which escalated (as per usual). Social services, naturally, put him back with his mother and called in an adolescence support team to tackle HIS violent behaviour. I'd taken our son and kept him at my flat until they'd done their assessment. She doesn't deserve to have kids, she's too childish herself.
In October, the ex- got depressed following the departure of her latest f*ck-buddy back to New Zealand. She started complaining that she doesn't have enough money, but can somehow afford to be out almost every night and gettting new tattoos done. God, I hate tattoos, for so many reasons.
For Christmas, the kids came over to my flat. There was some argument and madness from the ex that I couldn't see them on Christmas Day, then I could see them when I dropped off presents, then she couldn't afford to do a dinner so I had to take them. I was completely non-phased by it all, and we enjoyed a lovely Christmas dinner at my flat, me, the kids together with my flatmate and best friend who was excellent.
Now my daughter is looking at universities. We went to Bangor by train last month and next month she wants to go to Winchester with her mother. I have said I don't want to go, which is true, because they are after me taking them in the car, and I don't want to spend three hours plus in the car with the ex. The ex phoned up raging about my unfair treatment of the children, how I can't do enough for the boy, but ignore the girl. My guts started going again; that's another reason I had to get out of that relationship, my bowels have been fine since I've been in the flat.
And now I'm desperate to get my vasectomy reversed. Not because of having a new partner, because I don't, but because the longer I leave it, the less chance a reversal will work. It's a lot of money, and I've saved it up now, but it'll mean I'm out of action for two weeks. I want another child, one free from her influence.