My life as a single person rather than a separated person has been on-going for about the last 6 months I guess. During this time I have attempted to change my label, I am no longer the same person I was when I first registered on this site, and I no longer want to dwell on the past.
I needed wiki, it was a god send, a place where I could speak to people who were going through similar emotions to me, who fed off of each other and in that mutual support environment I also got to feel good about the support I could give to other people, well done Ian your site has and does work wonders.
So what has changed, well I am in a relationship with somebody I knew when I was a toddler, its early days and I have no idea where it will go, but for the time being she makes me feel happy and that is about as much as I need right now.
In my last few blogs I went on about my ex moving my sons school, well now she has moved my daughter to the same school as well, this time with my consent, I don't like the new school as much as the old one, and I don't think they do either, but there is not much I can do about it. Logistically its a night mare but I am so lucky that my boss is very flexible so I can drop them off and pick them up regularly.
My ex has split up with her boyfriend, I am not sure about the circumstances, or if it will last seeing as this would be the third time. For those of you who don't know about the boyfriend see earlier blogs for details!
I still have issues with my ex, she lives in the land of the fairies most of the time, and she expects everybody to rally around her in her times of need, yet she is nowhere to be seen if anybody should need support. The circumstances surrounding her boyfriend meant that she has alienated a lot of her family and old friends, yet now that it is over, she now expects them to help her out, and for me that means more maintenance and more school runs.
I obviously would never stop supporting my children, so unlike the snubbed friends I cannot ignore the situation, so here I am yet again at her beckoned call now that she has lost her temporary slave and lackey.
So my life, the one that belongs to me, is changing, and for the better I think, its great to have somebody in your life who makes you feel special and sees the good in you, her life is back to square one, and my children have lost another male figure in their lives, I will never be shot of her, because I will never let me children go, unlike her boyfriends who will disappear for good if they have any sense.
I guess this separation thing goes through stages, who knows what they are, I am past the "I am separated stage" I am now in the "living my life and moving one stage" I wonder if she will allow me to do that?
Ex doesn't know about my new lady interest, I haven't told her about it, as I don't know where it will go, I have had a few short relationships in the last two years, nothing to write home about, so I have never really considered saying anything to her. I know her, and she will make my life difficult for me once she gets to know about it, she is like that, not very pleasant, not that she will be jealous, just because she is so desperate to make me out to be the bad guy, she has banned her mum from speaking to me recently, I have no idea why just to be spiteful and stir things up.
So here I am worrying about what she will do, just like I did when we were together, even though I shouldn't care I do, ho hum, I may have left her behind but cannot leave how it felt to live with a manipulative cow who doesn't care about anybody else other than herself (not a keeper then!)
Tonight its DVD night in with "bottles" of wine and new lady friend, is the sort of night I have craved for and now it will be my second in a week, good times. To date I have not really spoken about my ex with her, I kind of think it might put a dampener on the occasion, if things do move on I will have no choice but to expose her to the full madness that was my wife, not looking forward to that, most other people cant see what I ever saw in her, neither can I now!