My husband wanted me out of the fmh and became drunk and abusive enough that the Domestic voilence unit advised me to leave for my safety and sanity. He wanted me out because he wanted to be able to carry on his affair without me in the picture.
I ended up living in a friends box room, paying what was necessary to live there, paying for the keep of my dog and paying half the mortgage and half of his credit cards.
He wanted the bachelor life style so he sold assets and purchased himself a new motorbike and is currently leading on several women with his twisted belief that all of this is my fault and they are all falling for it.
He wanted 'closure' so I started divorce proceedings (you can't get much more closed than that can you) but he wasn't happy because he didn't like me using adultery to divorce him. So he changed the draft petition until it read how he wanted it to read.
He wants to hold up the process of selling the house by keeping it in a terrible state, so he can continue to live there. But he wants me to pay half the mortgage still.
He wants me to drop everything so he can have the dog this weekend...
What he wants, what he wants, what he wants. What's good for him, what makes him happy, what floats his boat, he's living in the life style that he is accustomed to, what about ME.
When do I get to do what I want??? When do I get to have what I want??? When do I get to make demands and requests from him that are unreasonable and ridiculous.
I wanted to stay in my house, I wanted to stay in my marriage, I wanted to have someone love me, I wanted our relationship to work, I wanted things to work out differently, I wanted so much, but what I want doesn't matter does it... once a doormat, always a doormat. It wasn't enough that he abused me, took everything that meant anything to me, made me feel like a worthless, useless object. Wasn't enough that he would reject me then hurt me when he felt like it. Wasn't enough for him that he took my dignity, my dreams, my passions and crushed them all up so he could have control. Now he wants MORE. I have nothing more, I have nothing left to give, I am now officially bled dry.
My problems are so petty in relation to other peoples but there is so much going on outside of this divorce (that he knows about) and all he can think about is what HE WANTS!! Selfish, good for nothing, plophead.
Someone stop the ride, I'm getting off......