Well Friday evening (the return of my wife from her two day meeting) didn't go well. I didn't pick up on how tired she was and so my attempts to ask her about the two days and the drive back was dealt with in short shrift.
This put my back up because I was hoping that there may have been some mention about my ideas for changing my life to defuse the situation we find ourselves in. Being good friends would seem to be a major achievement at the moment. Perhaps all couples thinking about divorce should be issued with UN Blue Helmets and flak jackets.
Anyhow Saturday was almost the same. I realise how many bad patterns and behaviours we have learnt as a defence and that result in hurt to the other. I just wonder if we have enough time to unlearn those to be even just friends.
Saturday night ws better but still stepping around each other and misunderstandings abound. Just before midnight I approach my wife for a 10 minute chat which ends up being 2 hours. At least things are being aired - just should have been done so long ago.
So there is an improvement in how we interact and more respect towards each others' point of view.
I think there is a difference in perceived end point. My wife's view would be that we can still be friends as the absolute best. My view is that would be good but admitted that I still have a hope that it could become more.
I wonder which it will be.