This is my first entry so here's a quick resume. Together with Anne for 15 years, married over 12, two kids (10,13). Things had been hum drum for quite a while but thought that was what one expected after such a period of time. Got unwittingly involved with an old friend, Abi, via the internet but when it started to get more serious, tried to ut it on hold whilst I sorted out 'where I was' in my marriage. Went to Relate etc but only said that being in contact with this old flame had made me realise that I was not sure where I wanted to be. Didn't let on just hiw emotionally close we had become. Asked the friend to not contact me for 3 months whilst I tried to sort myself out.
Made some progress but then my wife found out just how serious it had become and we hit a crisis because of the deceit, loss of trust etc. Amazingly, she was then really forgiving and we had an epiphany of about 2 weeks where it was like we had just met all those years ago. Not long after I started to slip back into my old, lazy ways and also started to think about Abi again and contacted her. Told Anne this and another crisis was upon us. Couldn't stand all the pain I was causing but also felt I couldn't commit to the marriage 100% so I suggested a trial separation, starting on.....Valaetine's Day!
So this is my blog about how this period, which I expect will be at least a month, goes.