Since I last blogged.
Some strange stuff has happened between my ex and I, well between her family, her and me. Her getting back with her boyfriend as caused some really bad fallout, I have been asked some difficult questions.
If your children could be in danger what will you do about it?
I dont know, my ex brother in law, and mother in law, both have told me that they fear for the safety of my children. It all got very silly and my ex ended up getting the police involved.
I did my normal thing, stayed level headed, balanced, and to an extent cold.
I was invited to a birthday party, to the son of my ex's cousin, last weekend, it was my weekend with my children, apparently my ex was not welcome, her family are not talking with her.
Her family are an odd bunch, mostly lovely, but odd, her aunt, the one that she probably likes the most, who I hadnt seen since our split linked arms with me and said that she was very sad that I wasnt part of her family any more. It made me sad, when you give up on your marriage you also walk away from your extended family, and for me that was a lot to give up on.
I have been invited to the family christmas dinner, she has not, it will cause bad feeling, more bad feeling. Whilst it isnt because of me, it is because we broke up, indirectly, and I feel bad for her. It feels like a really rubbish popularity contest, one which I am likely to win, but I dont want too.
I will have my children on christmas day, boxing day and a couple of days after, the she will have them for New years, it all sounds like a fair exchange etc, but what an earth is fair about it, divorce is not about two people seperating, its about families falling apart, and I for one am growing very tired of it.