Good news first- the family home is sold and I finally have funds to move on and get on with my life.
The bad news- the cops are still refusing to throw out the Harassment Notice which threatens me with arrest if I make any contact with my daughter. This despite their finally admitting that:
1. they don't check the ID of whoever complains even though I logged with them in 2013 that the ex might fabricate evidence,
2. the ex attended the police station with our daughter (if it was our daughter?). It took almost a year before the cops let this slip!!!
3. although there is no appeal process, they will respond to my complaint "in due course" and that their response is "not time bound".
So far, it has taken over a year to get this far. Looks like it will be a long slog- if ever.
.... but then the ex repeatedly threatened to make sure I would never see the 'girls' again, if we divorced.