We split up 3.5 years ago and have been divorced for a year. We agreed
that I would do the divorce application to save costs. We went to
mediation and agreed our split & that he would pay
child maintenance. I
left him to work out the
child maintenance amount based on the
calculator.
He is still extremely hung up on how I have
'shafted' him. All our finances were laid bare and income, expenditure,
assets gone through. We agreed what was in and out.
At every
opportunity for the last 4 years, he has ranted and raged over the
unfairness of the split. He has in his head its 70/30 although the figures
clearly show 54/46 even in the formal statement. (I had the 2 kids.)
There is no way even with the figures in front of him will he even
believe otherwise. He thinks hes skint because I have made him skint.
Although I would say that it is down to bad money management and poor
decisions/choices, drink, going out, drugs.
He is convinced that
he is handing money over to me rather than this is money which is his
contributing to her upkeep. And that I am still out to fleece him and
control him.
His anger, venom and aggressiveness is very real
and wearing. He can talk civilly and then be easily triggered and go into a
rant about the split. Its very adversarial and I just want to move on and
have a calm life.
Does it ever stop??? what can I do to stop
the cyclical rant.