A staggering number of children effectively lose one parent within 2 years of a divorce or separation for no good reason whatever. The law makes it easy for the parent who continues to live with the children to exclude the departed parent from the children's lives, often totally. Most people remain blissfully unaware of this till it happens to them or to someone they are close to. This book, by reference to actual cases, shows all too clearly that if you leave your partner, there is a very real risk that you will lose your children, and they you. This should not be the case, but that is the way the Family Courts work. Parents, Family Court Judges, Court Welfare Officers & the Lord Chancellor himself, should read this book. The sooner the Authorities face up to the long term misery the secret Family Courts are visiting upon children, parents and grandparents, the sooner the outmoded legal system will be reformed. I congratulate Penny Cross for writing this guide for separating parents, so they know what may be in store for them and their children should they take the decision to separate or divorce.