I am one of those women who chose to believe in a relationship with a not-yet divorced man. I learned by this book that I had to live my life and see if he wanted to follow me instead of drawning in the complete turnmoil his life still is... It's THE book to be read when you think that love will conquer all and will make a happy ending of this "high risk" story. You learn that is has more to do with emotional intelligence than with feelings. It took me a while to understand, I was about to burn that relationship in the biggest fire-place. I still don't know where it will lead ( I sincerely hope he'll be the one ) But at least I know that thanks to this book I am doing the best I can and that I won't fall in the same earthquake his world is right now in case it doesn't work. Thanks Robyn, Thanks Lesley... I know now I needed that book to preserve myself of feeling one day the way he feels now.