I was reflecting today on Easter a few years back, just before my girls took their GCSEs. We rented a cottage in Cornwall which provided uninterrupted peace for a couple of weeks and my ex and I helped them remember things or practise their Maths. We tried to set a good example and life was sweet back then, simpler. I think I may be getting one reason why fellow Wiki Eliza and others and myself struggle with the fallout of divorce. We tried to protect our children, teach them right from wrong - the family was safe and bad things were to be found elsewhere. Divorce seems to blow all this

Well, the First week of my overseas secondment is over. 9 more to go. It feels more like 9 years. I'm really struggling. I feel so homesick. I know I have my family here (they live in the country that I have been seconded to), but I just feel desperately lost. I know it's odd for me to be homesick, to want to go home. Apart from some very close friends, I have no home in the uk anymore. No house. No husband. No family unit of my own. All gone. Another life. All taken away from me, despite fighting so hard for so long to keep it all. So I have nothing actually to go back to right now.

I've been on wiki the past few months, and have received some heartwarming advice and support. I've only just found this blog section of the website, and have been avidly reading through as many of the entries as possible, desperate to find out how everyone else is coping or has coped with this common nightmare we have all stumbled into. Mainly because everything is so horrific, I wonder how on earth people have gone through this and come out ok the other side. I am only entering my 5th month of separation. Every day is a struggle, where I try desperately hard to stay positive, but frequently