Quite a while since I've been on.

Woke up this morning, noticed the date and thought 'it's (my former boyfriend's) birthday today'. I have not seen him for many years but we were together from university for quite a long time, splitting up some time before I met my now X. And then I thought: 'oo-er, so maybe it's a year since I was divorced?!' In fact the date of the DA is not very meaningful. It was stamped some time around now, but I didn't hear about it for a while, so it was sort of behind the scenes, and by that time in any case it had no real significance. We were divorced in all but name (law) anyway. I

It's now 3 years since my ex left and I'm doing OK, though I accept that I will always have some sadness and anger about the way my ex left the marriage and his ongoing reluctance to spend one on one time with his own children. But he does see them and support them, so it could be a lot worse. Initially I was annoyed that I even remembered the date this year, but it came to a head around my birthday, so I don't think I'll ever forget it. I've read it's very common for spouses to make these announcements on or close to a birthday or Christmas...so thoughtful! Instead I've decided to