Many of you have read and commented on my latest blog "Daughter's Thoughts." and I thank you for that- your perceptions and views reflected my own. This morning my older daughter was speaking to my oldest son (the only member who has any contact with his father.) He told her that ex was "hurt and bewildered" by her email and "couldn't understand what prompted it!" Bearing in mind that he has yet to reply to her email (nearly 4 weeks later)I was completely gob-smacked! Is he really from another planet or does he genuinely not get the hurt and uproar his actions have caused to his

Dad, Thank you for your text re Xmas presents. You may want to hear what I have to say before you spend any money on me. I read mum's email, and your response. I can vouch for her that she has done all she can to help your relationship with XXX and I more than you've done to help yourself. I gave you the opportunity this time last year (with a similar email) to build a real relationship with us, and set very clear standards. It was always your responsibility to contact us, as it was completely your choice to start a life without us in it. We were powerless to your decisions. As you

I know I am preaching to the converted her but why is my ex such an a***? Concerned that his fragile link with his daughters had dwindled to nothing and listening to my daughters' comments about his lack of interest in their lives, I sent a pleasant email with telephone contact numbers(again) so he could contact them. His response was to ignore my email and instead send a letter to youngest daughter asking for her personal email address and her older sister's residence!(No idea why he didn't text older daughter for this info, or, shock,gasp,horror-ask ME) Younger daughter doesn't want him