Oh this is so confusing it is just one thing after another.

 I was not married but lived together as a couple for 10 years owned property together 8 years and have a 4 year old son.  She left me for someone else.

I aggreed to pay my ex 50% of the equity from our house and it is up for sale at the moment. Due to the current market I am sure it is going to take a long while before we get an offer and I am sure we wont get anywhere near the asking price.

Well if we were to get the asking price then we would both come away with £18-£20k. I have placed an intial of £16k which she has flatly turned

Yesterday's outcome of the Final Hearing is still sinking in. Some of you  may know my case has taken 2 yrs and 11 months to resolve and a lot of  bitterness along the way, and that I had, had very  poor legal advice from my then acting sols. At my repeat FDR in February I was advised to accept his offer which was written down wrong on paper the offer being £20 p/w for 2 years as a clean break settlement  later offer was £25 p/w for 2 years and £240 pcm for the children until they leave school secured in a consent order due to his large arrears with the CSA.My gut feeling was this is wrong

Most of the blogs on here are pretty depressing reading.  After all, we only tend to blog when things go wrong, and we need help.  So, in an effort to redress the balance, here's a more upbeat story of things going right.  It can work out.

We're in the middle of sorting out the finances.  It's not going to be easy.  There's simply not enough money to go round.  We're going to have to sell the house, and we have a load of debt.  Money was something we rowed about constantly.  My stbx is trying to sort out benefits, meanwhile I'm paying the running costs on two houses and the mortgage on one,