Blog Entries tagged 'soon to be ex'

Social services

bertie1670@googlemail.com — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Now we have social services involved in this. Not just Cafcass but the child care team. I don't know if this is good or bad as I have yet to speak to the case officer myself. stbx has been interviewed and apparently children are to be seen tomorrow but no-one seems to know for sure and no appointment has been made. I am guessing that our GP has contacted them but it could have been the school although they wre reluctant to action things.

I think I said last t [...]

All done and dusted............

gilly3166@hotmail.co.uk — Tue, 18 Nov 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Well folks - it's been a long time since I came on the site - so thought I'd let you know how things are. Ex got engaged to significant other over the summer and divorce was finalised in September awaiting Court approval of the Consent Order. That was eventually sorted following a Court hiccup - meaning it took nearer 6 weeks than the 2 we were led to believe. All done and dusted so to speak - and as a bit of a result I managed to keep my pension entirely and got a share of the equity [...]

Its over...

judithallan@fsmail.net — Mon, 10 Nov 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Well today its 6 months since my marriage ended and im feeling very low today.... Im not living just existing day to day.... I finally started my divorce today and when I had put the phone down from the solicitor I felt sick.... I have been putting off doing it not sure why..... I have known for a long while that it's over and somehow just couldn't bring my self to make that step .... Now it is done....

I feel like my life will never be the same again and im n [...]

Feeling utterly wretched today

andrewcbaillie@msn.com — Mon, 10 Nov 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Firstly, may I apologise.

I haven't been in wiki for some weeks.

Before, people used to comment on my blog with very positive c0mments, and with all of the support and understanding I received, I felt strong enough to take life on by myself.

Silly me!

What I forgot however is that - people don't really change. Neither should they, I guess. I mean, I know my wife is very controlling, and that's the reason why we clash, but it's absolutely not my place t [...]

What Hurts The Most

Jeannie@hotmail.co.uk — Mon, 10 Nov 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Hi,

You know what hurts the most peeps in all of this adultery malarky its the fact that the adulterers just dont even give us a thought. What I mean is they just go about their affair whilst their partners go about our daily business of looking after the home or working our n*&ts off to provide for the family and their out there "having fun" whilst we are completely unaware.

I asked my husband this weekend whether he actually ever gave me a though [...]

Day One - being buried in the woods

caroline.steed@ntlworld.com — Thu, 06 Nov 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Dear Blog

Thank you for all the support I have received from my wonderful friends.

Been feeling really low and unreal - my mum and dad tell me to put a brave face on and smile and i will feel better - true I know, I will try harder!!! People have been very kind and nice to me, very kind - my friends seem to have been nicer to me than my husband has - what does that say?

What is love ? my mum asked me what attracted me to him in the first place? hell I was 15 that's [...]

Husband Moved out today

caroline.steed@ntlworld.com — Wed, 05 Nov 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Don't really want to write much ..... my husband moved out today. After months of sort of trying to put things behind me I cannot forgive him and move on. he has not helped in this by not making me feel more secure. I am supposed to just think that its over and she has gone away, although I am not too sure about this.

Pleaded with him to come home at 8 pm last night instead of working over and being with her - but no - wouldn't do it - when he fina [...]

dont want to be here..

burnhem@btinternet.com — Tue, 04 Nov 2008 01:00:00 +0100

im takin daisys advice ..im blogging..

well it got worse today!

hubby took his name off joint account and has left me with absolutley nothin to live on !

i really didnt think he would do it..he wanted the account to stay joint until house was sold ..was easier he said then at least all bills got paid ! and this was only said on saturday..!

who or what changed his mind ???

he rang me at work today to tell me this ..im soo scared and upset im really thinking [...]

another update..

burnhem@btinternet.com — Fri, 31 Oct 2008 01:00:00 +0100

well peeps ..here i go again..

need to blog as it helps me get it off my chest ..( wish i had a bigger chest though !!)

hubby rang me yesterday askin if i would sort out all his finances eg.wot he pays out every month ..credit cards and dds etc..

no problem with doin this as we still have joint finances..and hes workin away all the time so obviously has no time..

rang him last night to tell him they were done and when would he get them. had a lovely c [...]

haven't been here for a while

doreenpottermpotter@btinternet.com — Sun, 26 Oct 2008 01:00:00 +0100

since my last blog things are moving so fast

Husband's depression is improving, still has really down days. Which I find hard to deal with.

I am still decorating the house, nearly every room needs painted etc. work men still there, plastering etc. I Have lived in a builders yard for the last 10 yrs if not more. I always said that the day it got finished would be the day it got sold.

Husband is still talking at me constantly, we have been to 2 counseling sessions. Then it [...]

why is he nasty to me?

alisonstrange@ntlworld.com — Sat, 18 Oct 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I got home from work today in time for the 'changeover' S2BX had the boys today as usual. Anyway within 5 mins he was quite horrible. Why? Is he angry that I'm doing what I want without having to consult him? Has he had a bad day and wanted to upset me as i was cheerful? Well I could do without it and the veiled threats that he made especially when it's in front of the kids.

God Damnit

heath.davis@hotmail.co.uk — Thu, 16 Oct 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I was having a really good day, with positive feelings about her being out of my life. In fact I was gonna blog about that. Then whilst making the kids' sandwiches, I remembered our first kiss on the doorstep of her parents house.

Damn, damn, damn!!!

Mmm, tears & Cheddar, my favourite!

Here we go

caladan08@gmail.com — Tue, 14 Oct 2008 01:00:00 +0100

So here we go, me blog.
I've been thinking about it awhile since a few late night wikichatters suggested it. I've written a diary every day for years but never written publicly.

I am going to start with a resolution - that in this blog and in my forum posts I will stop referring to my wife as my wife - as she hasn't been that for a year, or maybe ever if the truth be known (which it will) - and I will hereby call her my stbx. It's not a lack of respect [...]

Jedi Powers still warding off the Darkside! Yey!

emdbld@live.co.uk — Mon, 13 Oct 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Well, STBX has introduced his 'special friend' to the girls, good, about time he moved on with his life. They are happy with it and so am I - he doesnt seem to be though!

He is seemingly amazed that I have not reacted to this news, other than 'No, I dont have a problem' and 'yes I am getting divorce sorted' (as he 'told' me to last week by text - it has been held up by him controlling when HE wants it done in his words ''I dont care ho [...]

Meeting with solicitor

s73serendipitous@aol.co.uk — Thu, 02 Oct 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Had a meeting with my solicitor this morning to discuss various things.

Firstly, the house transfer into my name. We are just awaiting his signature on the documents, now there is a surprise. Hopefully he will just sign them but no doubt it will be in his own time.

I am still waiting for him to sign my life insurance over to me. I am the one paying the premium every month and he is the one that would benefit from my death. I need to know that there is at least a small amount of mo [...]

Trying to let go and move on

dawnuk57@yahoo.com — Sat, 27 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

We lived together 3 years, bought a nice house and got married. We didnt have children as i couldn't stay pregnant for long, always miscarried around 8 weeks! Hubby had 4 kids from 1st marriage and we all got on pretty well, they stayed with us some weekends & on holidays, they lived away so contact wasnt constant.

I thought we happy together on the whole, despite his problems with alcohol & pill addiction (codeine dependency).

I encouraged him to leave his employmennt [...]

out for the first time with our married friends

caroline.steed@ntlworld.com — Sat, 27 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Tonight was the first time I was to go out with our married friends since we have split up.

I went shopping in Hertford today with Georgia and we both bought tops from a posh shop in the sale. My top was lovely. Because I am so thin I only have one tiny six 6 jeans to wear and I am washing these for tomorrow. So i wore black leggings and my high boots.

I thought I scrubbed up ok.

I was really nervous about go to the bar, being leaving on my own and just&nbs [...]

WTF?

heath.davis@hotmail.co.uk — Thu, 18 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

I had another one of my confrontational 'chats' with my STBX the other day (sorry I can't help myself, it just happens)

My button was pushed when she started talking about going to school plays, parents evenings together etc. She said we will have to be civil etc, to which I said that she should have thought about that before she started screwing around.

She then came out with this beaut - 'There's two people in this marriage, and blah, blah, blah... [...]

Sex

bertie1670@googlemail.com — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

What a weekend, travelled across the whole country, got soaked and sunburnt and still didn't get any!!

But it did get your attention and it makes me smile to think about it again. I think over that last year or so any sort of physical relationship has been absolutely the last thing on my mind, now well who knows.

So to update the blog, working away last weekend so didn't see children until sunday evening. Both very tired and having done next to nothing as far a [...]

18 years and it has come to this.

pinkymalmalred@yahoo.co.uk — Mon, 15 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

My daughters birthday today.Have had pleasant day, but this evening when she saw s2bx he went out with daughter to the pub(my suggestion),but took his 'girlfriend' along.I am just so hurt by this.I can't see why my daughter should be with him and her on her birthday when it was me that had her,me that has been there for her, me that peacekeeped to get her and her add together for the birthday, and he has to drag his woman with him.Its not fair, and not on.

Another first..thi [...]