Blog Entries tagged 'saving my marriage'

Trying to let go and move on

dawnuk57@yahoo.com — Sat, 27 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

We lived together 3 years, bought a nice house and got married. We didnt have children as i couldn't stay pregnant for long, always miscarried around 8 weeks! Hubby had 4 kids from 1st marriage and we all got on pretty well, they stayed with us some weekends & on holidays, they lived away so contact wasnt constant.

I thought we happy together on the whole, despite his problems with alcohol & pill addiction (codeine dependency).

I encouraged him to leave his employmennt [...]

Some great news:-D

memorcarpediem@yahoo.co.uk — Sun, 14 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Wow, I had said before my life changes direction every few hours at the moment. Well after his declaration of his way or the highway which I said in your dreams matey to and then told him if he was to stand any chance of working things out then he and the bartart couldn't even be friends, I also said I needed space and didn't want to see him - so last night (without telling me) he went to see her and told her he was going to work it out with me and would not see her anymore even in a [...]

A date, then no date.

memorcarpediem@yahoo.co.uk — Sat, 13 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

God he is a fruit loop. BUT next friday night we are having a date. He has agreed to try from beginning. Not holding breath but I said i needed space and was backing off so he came running forward. We'll see. Not giving up yet on 19yrs. It is a proper first date type date, scary...........

Update - probabaly no date will happen as I decided enough was enough with his gob and said again she is to be no part of his life friend only or not. I told him I was not competing for him [...]

His way or the highway

memorcarpediem@yahoo.co.uk — Fri, 12 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Well thats my option. He has no intention of introducing me to his friends. He said I was pi**ing him off by asking. He said be patient and wait and see. It is his way or no way. I said that was not good enough and unless he had something to hide then surely his friends would be happy to see him reconcile his marriage. He went off on one that I had told a couple of close friends that we had a chance.

Now to me it all says he has something to hide even though he denies it and accuse [...]

D-day results

memorcarpediem@yahoo.co.uk — Mon, 01 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Well he doesn't love me, its official. He doesn't know who he wants or where his life is going. She (barmaid) doesn't know he has been trying to sort things out(well she does as I told her) and he isn't sure who he wants now. He said tonight he needs to talk to his mum when she is over from cyprus next week to help him work out what to do. He was honest tonight about how close they are and currently non sexual. He speaks to her most days he said. Sorry can't wri [...]

D-day

memorcarpediem@yahoo.co.uk — Mon, 01 Sep 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Well took the lead and today is d-day. Tonight we are going to sit down and talk. Tonight I need answers. He is going to have to talk about her, his feelings for me and everything else. I cannot cope with this anymore. Got about 2 hrs sleep again last night and am struggling to even focus on basic simple things. I feel shaky and sick and cannot carry on like this. I need answers.

Tonight he has to make a decision. Properly sort things out with me or that is it. I am taking control. He [...]

More stupid mess

memorcarpediem@yahoo.co.uk — Sun, 31 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Well still in a mess. Still was hoping. Next installment. He turned up just gone 11am on his birthday, I had no idea what was happening. He said what did I want to do. He was feeling ill so didn't want to do much but wanted to spend day with me. Not kids but me. Kids didn't really want to see him so no issue there. We took dog out for long walk then came back and I made up picnic as a buffet at home. Then chilled in lovely sun in the garden and talked and laughed. He went off about 5 [...]

1 step forward 2 steps back

memorcarpediem@yahoo.co.uk — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Hmmmmm, good bit is I haven't cried since sunday, but having internal wobble. Felt a bit of anger and stuff last night and then just had awful night. Had one of those really vivid dreams about him me and the barmaid, I dreamt he left her and came back to be and she was gutted. Then couldn't settle and had millions of things going around my head. So this morning am very tired and feeling vunerable. I am going to see lots of him this week as he taken week out to see 15yr old. I am just [...]

Struggling dealing with me

yes1750@gmx.com — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 01:00:00 +0100

Hi,

Am new to this site and having read alot of the stories they make me very sad, unlike most of the stories about husbands affairs and how they are acting badly, well I am one of theose husbands who has been labelled a liar , I had an affair online with a girl I have only met 3-4 times on business but my wife found some explicit emails from me to her and thought I was having an affair in I guess in some ways I was and do not blame my wife one bit As I would of assumed the [...]

Every journey starts with a single step

matt@chaos.org.uk — Tue, 25 Mar 2008 00:00:00 +0100

I've been stuck in a rut for years. Working a long way from home, long hours, very stressful, underpaid, and, I've finally realised, neglecting my family and taking all my grief out on them.

My wife's been stuck in a rut too. Alone in the house, looking after the kids, depressed, realising she was nearing 40 and the kids were growing up and blaming me for everything.

So we drifted. She hooked up with an ex, stopped talking to me, and&nbs [...]

Another No Show

Francineshipley@hotmail.co.uk — Wed, 12 Mar 2008 00:00:00 +0100

I'm sorry I haven't updated. The day after my last blog, my husband said he wanted to come home. He transferred £300 to my account and asked that I bought new underwear, some DVD's and a meal for our ‘reconciliation.'

Dutifully, I had everything arranged for his return. I waited in beautiful new underwear, a cooked meal with candles, romantic music, and films I knew he'd enjoy. He didn't show up. I sat for three hours before deciding to give up.

my world crashed

Francineshipley@hotmail.co.uk — Fri, 22 Feb 2008 00:00:00 +0100

When he finally came home, we talked. We talked for hours, deciding whether we could work things through, if there's enough to build on to save this marriage, and despite my hurt, I asked to try again. We both agreed there's enough love to start afresh.

Last night, he came home from work and, as we watched television, I did something I haven't done in years - I performed oral sex on him. It's not something I have particularly liked doing in the past, but last night was d [...]

Rough weeks ahead...

cmason.home@yahoo.com — Thu, 21 Feb 2008 00:00:00 +0100

So...here we go.

After cancelling the last 2 times my x2b was supposed to have visitation with our son, she finally seems to have come through. I will be meeting her at the airport early tomorrow morning and he will be flying home with her for 2 weeks.

She has spent a grand total of 12 days since September 17th. Only one full week, which was the week of Christmas and I nearly forced her to spend that week with him. I had to update her on his potty training program, his breakfas [...]

He might come round tonight!

stripeuk@ntlworld.com — Tue, 19 Feb 2008 00:00:00 +0100

He might be coming round tonight. When I got home this morning he had put a note through my door saying he did not want to try again because he could not face the pain. I phoned him and we spoke on phone for an hour and a half it was very emotional and upsetting he didn't say no but just he had felt so much pain and had loved me so much he needed to think of himself now. I did ask if he would come to relate with me and at first he said yes but then said no he didnt think he needed to. [...]

Lets try again please

stripeuk@ntlworld.com — Mon, 18 Feb 2008 00:00:00 +0100

How desperate I must be! seperated 5 months ago but have regretted it ever since, we were married for 25 years and I miss him so much, it was my idea but I wanted him to beg me not to go and suddenly there we were - seperated!

Anyway spoke to him on phone and asked could we try again - he said no too much had happened and nothing would have changed. So in desperation wrote to him (been having counselling and althought I am supposed to write a letter I dont think the counsellor meant me [...]

Like a Pendulum

julian@pc-cb8.co.uk — Tue, 12 Feb 2008 00:00:00 +0100

So, last week I had some control. Over the week end I realise that I still have feelings for my wife. Why can't I make a decision and stick to it? Probably because it is not like buying a car. There is so much investment over many years.

So we are probably both confused. My wife (who appeared genuinely shocked) because I played the big hand last week. And now I want to take it back.

Me because I thought I had some control and realise that we are both no further forw [...]